Looking after the other half...

When one joins the big club, especially as an adult member, it places some responsibilities on one. If ones mother is alive, the responsibility of caring for the mother shifts immediately to the club member. I was already married with kids when I joined the club. With dad gone, I had to play the role of a husband to mum... take care of her medical bills, feeding and some stipends. It gives some joy to care for mum. The mum - child bonding gets stronger, like the good old days when one was a child. In some of our societies where a widow is subjected to some inhuman treatments by other family members, a fatherless club member should be ready to defend ones mother. Fortunately, that culture was not obtainable in my family. And I didnt have to fight that war.